In this small book Kim
Miller takes on a large problem – revenge parenting. Here’s the
post-divorce problem of a parent who loves the children and has
custody of them, but can’t help involving them in retribution
against the other parent. While such pay-back may well be
justified, and often is, the process can end up damaging the
children, and their relationship with their custodial parent, as
well.
The book has achieved a high
level of honesty and is hard-hitting enough to help a Mom who
senses her relationships getting out of hand. For example, one
solution, which can be a bitter pill to swallow, is to improve
the relationship between the divorced parents, and to work on
self-awareness.
Commendably, Kim opens the
window on her own divorce and some of the problems she faced.
She gives many pointers on things for a parent to avoid when in
this uncomfortable situation. Anyone who has experienced this
kind of dilemma will be interested in Kim’s analysis. But it's
best for those with young children, who still have time to avoid
the problems Kim describes.
As a publish-on-demand book,
it will be difficult for this work to achieve the level of
national recognition and promotion it surely deserves. Further,
it reveals some problems that are common to many self-published
works. The text is very short (it’s best to aim for 30,000+
words in a book) and a title that is too long for the lists.
“Avoiding Revenge in Parenting after Divorce” might have been
better, or words to that effect..
- Bruce Cook, Ph.D.
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How
to Love Your Kids More than you Hate that Man, by Kim B. Miller
(2006)